Following on with the how to conquer the fear of spiders
Rational thinking v Irrational thinking…
Lets get this sorted by thinking about your fear in a much more rational way, so when the time comes, being face to face with your worst enemy, you’ll have the confidence to be calm and not let it bother you.
If you have a real fear of spiders then you don’t need me to tell you how you feel as this was also in my last blog.
The brain working irrationally, hasn’t the power of cognitive thought to be able to deal with this problem, and so this has to be addressed at the conscious cognitive level of rational thinking.
You have to realise that you cannot overcome the fear using irrational thinking to solve your fear of spiders. This has to be done using rational thinking and in the next chapter I will tell you what you have to do.
The only issue is that you have to use your mind to do this. Not simply to just get on and do as the words that I will convey to you, that will have to be processed by your new thinking patterns.
Firstly with rationality what are you actually fearful of? Irrational thinking will just say the ‘spider’ but think more deeply and you’ll start to know what the problem actually is…
All fears will go once you understand them, I will give you an example of when we use the statement ‘I don’t like him’. What is it specifically about that person? Lets face it that we can have a dislike of someone just by the colour of their skin or sexual orientation because of our support of a bias nature.
1. I don’t like their attitude.
2. I don’t like how they talk.
3. I don’t like their style of clothes
4. I don’t like how they smell.
5. I don’t like their politics.
6. I don’t like who they support.
This list could go on, but once you know specifically what your prejudices are you can work to correct them because it is you with the problem, fear, phobia, and dislike.
This attitude will manifest towards many things in your life and that can be a negative, poisonous way to think and live.
Now what is it that you don’t like about a spider?
1. Is it the size?
2. It it their speed?
3. Is it their shape?
4. Is it how they make you feel?
5. Is it because they hide?
6. Is it the eyes?
Again this list could go on, but once you narrow this down you only have to deal with what is your particular issue and not the whole spider.
I Like Spiders.
I like spiders because…
I would like you to write down 30 words of what you would like about a spider. You might even say that you like Spider-Man and so you become your own hero and conquer the fear once and for all.
Once you start to reprogrammed your mind on thinking differently about spiders you will start to eradicate the negativity and so feel more in control with spiders. At this point and this should go without saying, it is important that you don’t kill them as all life is precious, also this would undo the aim of getting you fearless and not to be a killer.
Who do you know is an Arachnophile.
Or spider lover…
You can talk to those who don’t mind spiders and see what they have to say on the subject or start your own research on YouTube etc and get to know as much as you can about spiders.
Realising that you want to change, then for that to happen you have to gain knowledge.
Think of it like this if it helps. … You start a new job in a new place and you don’t know everyone’s name or the order of how things are done and what times events take place or the type of people you’ll be working with.
So you feel anxious, nervous and stressed out. But give it a week or so and you know the route and the dynamics of the style of people you work with and now you don’t feel anxious or stressed out and you are happy to go to work. Well this what will happen once you understand the dynamics of spiders.
What to do next…
living in the UK we don’t get really big spiders especially in the Birmingham area etc.
but if you have tried to get over your fear and still haven’t managed it. I can be of help with Anxiety Hypnosis because I have techniques that work on phobias to help reprogram your thinking and so dispel the negative charge you have towards a fear of spiders.
So if you want confidence in managing this by being rational when in the presence of a spider, I can help you accomplish that and it may only take you two or three sessions.